susie with depression
we know that two people can go through the same thing and be
affected by it very differently. The same disorder or barrier does not present the same way in everyone. For every person with cancer
making Marvel movies, there is someone at home who can’t do
anything but survive the day and attempt to eat. It’s rarely about who is trying harder or who is a better person but instead about individual capacity. Individual capacity is shaped by biology, psychology, and
environment. Just because Susie with six kids and depression can keep an immaculate house does not mean you are morally inferior if you cannot. If Susie worked hard for that house and it made her
happy she gets to be proud of it. And if you worked hard to eat a meal today, you get to feel proud of that too without any guilt about the state of your home. If you cannot do it like Susie, your only two options are to try to be like Susie and be miserable and burnt-out or to try to do things within your capacity and be whole and happy.
Neither of these choices affects Susie’s life in the slightest.
And remember, while you compare yourself to others, convinced that if you could be like them you’d be happy and worthy, there is
probably someone comparing them-selves to you, thinking the same. We are all somebody’s Susie.
