Originally, I wrote The Way of the Superior Man as a practical guide for men and their intimate lovers. I wanted to share with readers the lessons I had learned in life—specifically, how a man can grow spiritually while passionately tussling with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire.
Now, years later, after sharing this work with thousands of men and women, straight and gay, single and coupled, I can confirm that the lessons presented in these chapters really produce results. And in today’s world of rapid sexual and spiritual evolution—and thus confusion—these lessons may be more relevant than ever.
One of the more important lessons is this: as evolving human beings, we can learn that mastery is an important phase to accomplish and pass through in this school of life where we are learning to love more artfully.
Through the way described in this book, I have learned to love a woman into light, earn as much money as I want doing what I love to do, and master the arts of sexual loving. You can, too.
And then you will open to your next lessons, made possible by your real growth, just as you have achieved and outgrown all of your interests up until now.
What you loved as a child is less interesting to you now as an adult. And what occupies your attention now will cease to sooner or later. This growth is both natural and good. We are designed to outgrow everything— including our desire to experience and improve the realms of money, sex, and intimacy.
The Way of the Superior Man shows you how a man and his lover can learn the lessons necessary to grow to the next step—where the mind opens as feeling and the body is only light. There is a way to grow through these lessons, too, I’m told, but first things first.
Live completely. Know your deepest purpose. Give the gift you were born to give. Enjoy sex as a cosmic portal into love’s wonders. Serve your friends so they may grow. And, through the inevitable cycles of breathtaking success and gut-wrenching despair, when you have mastered and outgrown the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire, be willing to forget you were ever born.
Eventually—and I’m telling you in advance, just like I was told—the way of the superior man renders obsolete everything that can be known or experienced.
For now, start with what concerns you. I did. What my teachers and life required that I grow to understand—the path that worked for me as a man in a world of infinite possibilities—is offered in the chapters of this book. You will lay down your own path as you grow beyond your need to experience or know anything at all.
So, here’s my summation for a new preface: Stop waiting. Feel everything. Love achingly. Give impeccably. Let go.
Repeat with whatever remains, as long as you are moved to do so. This way dissolves wide open.
